Now, I am reading the book again and once again, it is speaking to me in wonderful ways. I’ll probably write more about it later, but just wanted to give you a few of the quotes that pack a punch.
“All my life—and mostly without even knowing it—I’d been trying to measure up to the standards of other people, including my own family and my Christian environment.”
“You don’t allow yourself to make mistakes (or admit them). When you’ve been taught that performance is the way to be valuable and acceptable, mistakes bring shame.”
“You have a high need for control. Since your sense of well being and security is based on externals, you’re preoccupied with the status of things and the behavior of people. Every time things or people don’t look or act the way you need them to, you fix, correct, adjust, improve, remedy, solve, reform, remodel or punish. This goes beyond the usual adult responsibility to guide: You need things to be ‘just so’ in order to be able to relax. But that time never comes.”
